The Cost of Servanthood

🎙️ Welcome to the Servant Leaders Blueprint Podcast!

Let’s be real—servant leadership comes at a cost. The long hours, the emotional investment, the constant problem-solving—it all takes a toll. Maybe right now, you’re feeling exhausted, running on fumes, and wondering how much longer you can keep going. If that’s you, take heart—burnout is not inevitable!

Here’s the truth: Even Jesus faced exhaustion. But He never burned out. And it wasn’t just because He was the Son of God—it was because He knew how to renew His strength.

In today’s episode, we’re going to unpack how Jesus, though fully divine, experienced the physical, emotional, and spiritual costs of leadership. And more importantly, we’ll explore His blueprint for refueling—so you can lead well, serve powerfully, and avoid burnout.

So grab a notebook, get comfortable, and let’s dive into today’s conversation—because leading like Jesus isn’t just about serving others; it’s also about sustaining yourself for the long haul.

🔥 Let’s get started!

Transcript

Let’s be real—servant leadership comes at a cost. The long hours, the emotional investment, the constant problem-solving—it all takes a toll. Maybe you’re feeling exhausted right now, running on fumes, wondering how much longer you can keep going. If that’s you, take heart! Burnout is not inevitable. Jesus Himself faced exhaustion, but He never burned out. Why? Not because he was the Son of God but because He knew how to renew His strength.

Today, we’ll unpack how Jesus, though fully divine, still felt the drain of ministry. We’ll explore the physical, emotional, and spiritual costs of servant leadership, and most importantly, we’ll talk about how Jesus recharged—and how you can too.

So, grab a notebook, get comfortable, and let’s dive into the Servant Leaders Blueprint for overcoming burnout!

Segment 1: The Power to Serve – How Jesus Relied on the Holy Spirit

Our first question is - how did Jesus operated as a leader? A lot of times, we assume that because Jesus was divine, leadership must have been easy for Him. After all, He was the Son of God, right?

But here’s something we don’t often think about—Jesus didn’t rely on His own divine power when He ministered. Instead, He chose to live as a man, fully dependent on the Holy Spirit.

📖 Philippians 2:7 tells us that Jesus “emptied Himself” and took on the form of a servant. That means He voluntarily gave up certain divine privileges and lived as a human, experiencing all the limitations, struggles, and exhaustion that come with it.

Why does this matter? Because if Jesus Himself did not try to lead, serve, or minister in His own strength, then we shouldn't either. He showed us the blueprint for leadership—not through self-reliance, but through dependence on the Holy Spirit.

1. Jesus Did Not Rely on His Own Strength

I want you to think about how Jesus started His ministry. Did He just wake up one day and decide, "Alright, today’s the day I start changing the world"?

No—His ministry officially began when He was baptized, and the Holy Spirit came upon Him.

✅ Luke 3:22 – At His baptism, the heavens opened, the Spirit descended like a dove, and God affirmed Him: “This is my beloved Son, in whom I am well pleased.”

Immediately after that, what happened? The Spirit led Him into the wilderness for 40 days. Luke 4:1 says, “Jesus, full of the Holy Spirit, left the Jordan and was led by the Spirit into the wilderness.”

Then, after overcoming temptation, He didn’t return from the wilderness tired or discouraged. Luke 4:14 tells us, “Jesus returned in the power of the Spirit to Galilee, and news about Him spread.”

Did you catch that? Full of the Spirit → Led by the Spirit → Moving in the power of the Spirit.

That sequence matters. Jesus didn’t step into leadership before being filled, led, and empowered by the Holy Spirit. He didn’t rely on His own strength.

And that’s where a lot of us struggle as leaders today. We try to power through on our own—relying on talent, intelligence, or experience—until we’re running on empty. But Jesus shows us a better way: Start with the Spirit, follow the Spirit, and serve in the Spirit’s power.

2. Jesus Experienced the Energy Cost of Ministry

Now, even though Jesus relied on the Spirit, that didn’t mean He never got tired. In fact, the Bible gives us glimpses of just how draining leadership was for Him.

One of the most powerful moments is in Luke 8:46, when Jesus is in a crowd, and a woman touches the hem of His garment. Instantly, she is healed. But Jesus stops and asks, “Who touched me?”

Peter is confused: “Lord, there’s a whole crowd pressing against you—why are you asking who touched you?”

And Jesus responds, “I felt power go out from me.”

Think about that for a second. This wasn’t just a miracle happening outside of Him—He felt power leave His body. That tells us that ministering to people wasn’t effortless for Jesus. It cost Him something.

And isn’t that true for us as well?

✅ When you counsel someone through a crisis, you feel it afterward.
 ✅ When you preach, teach, or lead a meeting, you feel that drain.
 ✅ When you serve all day—pouring into people—by evening, you’re exhausted.

When you spend the day working along side your team dealing with a business problem, you go home spent physically, emotionally and spiritually.

Jesus knows what that feels like. He understands the weight of ministry because He lived it.

That’s why in Mark 6:31, after a long day of teaching and healing, He turned to His disciples and said, “Come with me by yourselves to a quiet place and get some rest.”

Jesus modeled something we often neglect: When you give, you also need to replenish.

3. Jesus’ Deep Empathy Drained Him

Here’s another aspect of Jesus’ leadership that we often overlook—He wasn’t just physically drained; He was emotionally drained.

Jesus felt deeply.

✅ Matthew 9:36 – When He saw the crowds, He was moved with compassion because they were like sheep without a shepherd.
✅ Luke 19:41 – As He approached Jerusalem, He wept over it because He saw the destruction that was coming.
✅ Matthew 23:37 – He lamented, “Jerusalem, Jerusalem, how often I longed to gather your children together as a hen gathers her chicks under her wings, but you were not willing.”

Does that sound like a leader who is emotionally detached? No way. Jesus felt every rejection, every heartache, every lost opportunity.

If you’re a leader who carries the weight of your people’s struggles… if you lose sleep over the pain your team or your congregation is going through… if you feel emotionally depleted at times—you are not alone. Jesus knows exactly how that feels.

But here’s what I love—Jesus didn’t let that drain Him to the point of burnout. Why? Because He consistently took time to refuel.

And that’s what we’re going to explore next—how Jesus recharged so He could continue leading at the highest level.

So far, we’ve looked at how Jesus relied on the Holy Spirit, how ministry drained Him, and how He deeply felt the burdens of leadership. But here’s the most important part—Jesus knew how to refuel!

If you don’t build in time to recharge, you will burn out. But if you follow Jesus’ pattern, you can lead well for the long haul.

Coming up next—we’re going to talk about the actual cost of leadership and why leading like Jesus will demand something from you.

But here’s the good news—even though leadership is costly, burnout is avoidable. 

🔥 Key Takeaways from Segment 1:

✔ Jesus didn’t lead in His own strength—He was filled, led, and empowered by the Holy Spirit.
✔ Leadership took a toll on Jesus—He felt power leave Him, He experienced exhaustion, and He carried deep emotional burdens.
✔ If leadership drained Jesus, it will drain us too—but the key is knowing how to refuel.

The Cost of Servant Leadership

 Alright let’s get real about the cost of servant leadership. Because leading others is not easy. It’s rewarding, it’s fulfilling, but it’s also costly—physically, emotionally, and spiritually.

The good news? Jesus already walked this road before us. He counted the cost, paid the price, and showed us how to lead without collapsing under the weight of responsibility.

So let’s break this down into three areas:

✅ The Physical Cost
✅ The Emotional Cost
✅ The Psychological & Spiritual Cost

1. The Physical Cost of Leadership

Let’s start with the most obvious one—the physical toll of leadership.

A lot of times, we spiritualize leadership and forget that our bodies pay a price too. If you’re in a leadership role—whether in ministry, business, or your community—you probably know what it feels like to be physically exhausted.

Jesus experienced that too.

✅ Jesus walked everywhere. There were no cars, no private jets—He traveled on foot for miles, from village to village (Matthew 8:20).
✅ He often went without food and sleep. Remember when He was so exhausted that He fell asleep in a boat during a raging storm? (Mark 4:38)
✅ He spent long hours serving. Crowds followed Him everywhere, pressing in for healing, teaching, and wisdom (Mark 3:20).

💡 Here’s the truth:
Leadership is physically demanding. The long hours, the stress, the travel, the never-ending to-do list—it all takes a toll on your body.

And if you don’t care for yourself, your body will break down before your ministry does.

Think about it—even Jesus needed food, sleep, and rest.

In Mark 6:31, after a long day of ministry, He told His disciples, “Come with me by yourselves to a quiet place and get some rest.”

So here’s my question for you:
🔹 Are you prioritizing rest?
🔹 Are you taking care of your body—eating well, exercising, getting enough sleep?
🔹 Or are you pushing yourself to the brink, thinking that rest is for “later”?

If Jesus modeled rest, then we should too.

2. The Emotional Cost of Leadership

Now, let’s talk about the emotional cost of leadership.

Because let’s be honest—leading people is an emotional rollercoaster.

✅ Jesus was rejected by His own people. In Mark 6:1-6, Jesus went back to His hometown, and instead of celebrating Him, they dismissed Him. “Isn’t this the carpenter’s son?” they scoffed. And the Bible says He was amazed at their unbelief.

✅ Jesus was betrayed by a close friend. One of His own disciples, Judas, sold Him out for thirty pieces of silver (Luke 22:47-48).

✅ Jesus felt deep sorrow over the lost. In Luke 19:41, He looked over Jerusalem and wept, knowing they would reject Him.

If you’ve ever felt the pain of rejection, betrayal, or disappointment—Jesus knows exactly how you feel.

💡 Here’s the truth:
Leadership is not just about what you do—it’s about who you carry. You carry the weight of people’s expectations, their struggles, their crises. And that can be exhausting.

📖 Matthew 9:36 says, “When Jesus saw the crowds, He was moved with compassion for them, because they were harassed and helpless, like sheep without a shepherd.”

✅ Compassion takes energy.
✅ Empathy takes energy.
✅ Caring for people’s problems takes energy.

If you’re feeling emotionally drained right now, you’re not alone. Jesus felt it too. But He also knew how to process His emotions with the Father.

🔹 He prayed when He was sorrowful (Matthew 26:39).
 🔹 He withdrew when He needed space (Luke 5:16).
 🔹 He surrounded Himself with close friends (Luke 10:38-42).

If you’re carrying too much emotionally, it’s time to take that to God.

3. The Psychological & Spiritual Cost of Leadership

Alright, we’ve talked about the physical and emotional costs. But what about the mental and spiritual battle of leadership?

Because let’s be real—servant leadership is not just exhausting, it’s a battle.

✅ Jesus was constantly under pressure. The Pharisees were always watching, trying to trap Him with their questions (Mark 3:6, John 8:59).
✅ Jesus faced temptation. In Matthew 4:1-11, Satan tempted Him in the wilderness, trying to derail His mission.
✅ Jesus carried the weight of the world’s sin. In Gethsemane, He prayed in agony, sweating drops of blood (Luke 22:44).

Leadership is spiritual warfare. If you’re stepping into a role of influence—whether in ministry, business, or family—you’re going to face opposition.

💡 Here’s the truth:
The enemy wants to exhaust you, distract you, and wear you down. Because tired leaders make poor decisions.

📖 1 Peter 5:8 says, “Be sober-minded and watchful. Your adversary the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour.”

So here’s my question for you:
🔹 Are you guarding your mind?
🔹 Are you filling yourself with God’s Word, or just pushing through on autopilot?
🔹 Are you wearing the armor of God (Ephesians 6:10-18) or trying to fight battles in your own strength?

Recap: The Cost of Servant Leadership

Alright, let’s summarize what we’ve covered so far.

💡 1. Leadership is physically exhausting.
🔹 Jesus experienced hunger, thirst, and fatigue.
🔹 He modeled the importance of rest—and so should we.

💡 2. Leadership is emotionally draining.
🔹 Jesus felt rejection, betrayal, and deep compassion for people.
🔹 He processed His emotions with the Father and surrounded Himself with trusted friends.

💡 3. Leadership is a spiritual battle.
🔹 Jesus faced opposition, temptation, and spiritual warfare.
🔹 He relied on God’s strength, not His own.

So what does this mean for us? It means servant leadership is costly—but burnout is NOT inevitable.

Because just as Jesus paid the cost, He also showed us how to renew our strength.

And that’s exactly what we’re going to talk about in the next segment—how Jesus recharged and how you can too.

Coming up next, we’re talking about Jesus’ blueprint for rest and renewal.

If you’re feeling tired, overwhelmed, or emotionally spent—you do not want to miss this.

Stay tuned, and let’s learn how to lead like Jesus—without burning out!

How Jesus Recharged – And How You Can Too

 So far, we know that servant leadership comes at a cost—physically, emotionally, and spiritually even for Jesus.

But here’s the most important part of today’s episode: Jesus didn’t just pour out—He also refilled.

If you and I are going to lead for the long haul, we must learn how to recharge the way Jesus did. Because the truth is, burnout isn’t caused by serving—it’s caused by continuous serving without refilling.

So let’s take a look at Jesus’ blueprint for renewal. He shows us exactly how to:

✅ Withdraw and pray
✅ Rest with close companions
✅ Seek the Father’s presence in critical moments

And if He did it, so should we.

1. Jesus Withdrew Regularly to Pray

Let’s start with something Jesus did all the time—He withdrew to pray.

📖 Luke 5:16 says, “Jesus often withdrew to lonely places and prayed.”

I love that word often—this wasn’t something Jesus did occasionally when things got really bad. It was a habit.

✅ Before big decisions, He prayed all night. (Luke 6:12-13)
✅ After healing crowds, He pulled away to pray. (Mark 1:35)
✅ Before facing the cross, He went to Gethsemane to pray. (Matthew 26:36-39)

Now, let me ask you a tough question: When was the last time you withdrew to pray?

Not just a quick prayer before a meeting. Not just a moment in the car. But a real withdrawal—intentional time alone with God to refuel.

💡 Here’s the truth:
If you’re too busy to pray, you’re too busy to lead.

Jesus understood that prayer wasn’t optional—it was essential. He refused to let the demands of ministry pull Him away from His source of strength.

And we need to do the same.

🔹 Make daily prayer non-negotiable.
🔹 Have “withdrawal moments” in your week where you step away to recharge.
🔹 Learn to get quiet before God so you can hear His voice.

If you’re feeling drained right now, it’s time to pull back and get with God.

2. Jesus Rested with His Close Friends

Now, this next one is huge, especially for those of us who feel like we have to carry everything alone.

Jesus never led in isolation.

Yes, He had the crowds. Yes, He had the 12 disciples. But He also had an inner circle—people He rested with, trusted, and found joy in.

✅ Mark 6:31 – After a long day of ministry, Jesus told His disciples, “Come with me by yourselves to a quiet place and get some rest.”
✅ Luke 10:38-42 – He visited Mary, Martha, and Lazarus—a place where He could relax and be refreshed.
✅ Matthew 17:1-2 – He took Peter, James, and John up the mountain to experience the transfiguration.

Jesus didn’t just preach about rest—He practiced it.

And not alone—with His people.

💡 Here’s the truth:
Leadership can be lonely, but it’s not meant to be isolating.

Too many leaders burn out because they carry everything alone.

So let me ask you:

🔹 Who are the people in your life who refill you?
 🔹 Do you have a small circle of trusted companions—people you can relax with, pray with, and just be yourself around?
🔹 Or are you leading in isolation?

If Jesus needed close friends, so do we.

Find your people. Build relationships that refill you. And don’t lead alone.

3. Jesus Sought the Father’s Presence in Critical Moments

The third way Jesus recharged was by pressing into the Father’s presence—especially in His hardest moments.

Before major decisions? He prayed.
When He was overwhelmed? He prayed.
Before He went to the cross? He prayed.

📖 Matthew 26:38-39 – In Gethsemane, Jesus said, “My soul is overwhelmed with sorrow to the point of death.”

Now, let’s pause there—have you ever felt like that?

Like the weight of everything was too much to carry?

What did Jesus do? He fell on His face and prayed. He poured out His heart to the Father. He asked for strength.

If Jesus, the Son of God, needed to press into the Father’s presence—how much more do we?

💡 Here’s the truth:
When we’re exhausted, overwhelmed, and stretched thin, we have two choices:

1️Keep pushing in our own strength and burn out.
2️Press into God’s presence and receive supernatural strength.

Isaiah 40:31 says, “Those who wait upon the Lord will renew their strength.”

🔹 Are you waiting on the Lord, or are you just pushing through?
🔹 Are you taking time to worship, listen, and seek His voice?

If Jesus needed the Father’s strength, so do we.

Recap: Jesus’ Blueprint for Renewal

Alright, let’s summarize how Jesus recharged:

💡 1. He withdrew regularly to pray.
🔹 Leadership drained Him, so He made prayer a priority.
🔹 Application: Schedule daily withdrawal moments to be with God.

💡 2. He rested with close companions.
🔹 He wasn’t isolated—He had friends He trusted and rested with.
🔹 Application: Build a trusted circle and don’t lead alone.

💡 3. He sought the Father’s presence in critical moments.
🔹 Before His greatest trials, He pressed into prayer.
🔹 Application: In times of stress, don’t push through—press into God.

How to Avoid Burnout and Lead Like Jesus

So here’s the big takeaway—servant leadership is costly, but burnout is avoidable.

If Jesus—the Son of God—needed to withdraw, rest, and press into the Father’s presence, then so do we.

🔥 So here’s my challenge to you and myself:
This week, I want you to take one step toward refueling your spirit.

🔹 Maybe that means carving out time for prayer and solitude.
🔹 Maybe that means reaching out to a trusted friend for encouragement.
🔹 Maybe that means setting aside a real Sabbath—a day to truly rest.

Whatever it is, take the step. Because if you don’t recharge, you won’t last.

 Alright, servant leaders, we’ve covered a lot in today’s episode. We talked about the cost of servant leadership—how it drains us physically, emotionally, and spiritually. And we talked about how Jesus recharged, showing us that refueling is not optional if we want to lead effectively.

But now, I want to bring it all together and talk about how you can apply this to your life. Because knowing this isn’t enough—you need to take action.

💡 Here’s the key takeaway for today:

✅ Servant leadership is costly—but burnout is avoidable.

And the way to avoid burnout is by following Jesus’ blueprint for renewal:
1️. Withdraw regularly to pray.
2️. Rest with close companions.
3️. Seek the Father’s presence in critical moments.

So how can you put this into practice starting this week.

Step 1: Schedule Regular Withdrawal Time for Prayer

First, you need a rhythm of withdrawal—intentional time where you step away from the demands of leadership to refuel with God.

📖 Mark 1:35 tells us that “Very early in the morning, while it was still dark, Jesus got up, left the house, and went off to a solitary place, where He prayed.”

Jesus chose to withdraw before His day even started.

If you don’t schedule time with God, it won’t happen. There will always be another email, another meeting, another phone call. The urgent will crowd out the important.

So here’s my challenge for you:

🔹 Set aside at least 15-30 minutes every morning to be alone with God.
🔹 Use this time to pray, read Scripture, and listen.
🔹 Guard this time like an appointment you cannot miss.

And I get it—some of you are thinking, “But I don’t have time.”

Listen, you don’t have time NOT to pray.

Because if you’re leading without the presence of God guiding you, you’re leading on empty.

Step 2: Invest in Rest and Trusted Relationships

The second thing you need is true rest and trusted companions.

Jesus didn’t just work—He rested. And He didn’t rest alone—He rested with His closest friends.

✅ Mark 6:31 – Jesus told His disciples, “Come with me by yourselves to a quiet place and get some rest.”
✅ Luke 10:38-42 – Jesus spent time at Mary and Martha’s house.
✅ Matthew 17:1-2 – He took Peter, James, and John up the mountain to experience the transfiguration.

This tells us something HUGE—real rest is not just stopping work; it’s also connecting with the right people.

Leadership is not just exhausting because of work—it’s exhausting because we carry the burdens of others.

And if you don’t have people who pour into you, you will end up completely depleted.

So here’s my challenge for you:

🔹 Schedule time to rest—intentionally. Whether it’s a weekly Sabbath, an afternoon off, or just going for a quiet walk—plan it.
🔹 Invest in relationships that refill you. Who are the people in your life who encourage you? Make time to connect with them this week.
🔹 If you don’t have a strong support system, start building one. Find a mentor, a trusted friend, or a leadership group where you can be refreshed.

💡 Here’s the key:
Rest isn’t just about stopping—it’s about being restored. And that happens through connection with God and with the right people.

Step 3: Seek God’s Presence in Critical Moments

The final key to avoiding burnout is this—when life gets overwhelming, don’t push through—press into God.

Before Jesus faced the cross, He went to Gethsemane to pray.

📖 Matthew 26:38-39 – Jesus said, “My soul is overwhelmed with sorrow to the point of death.” Then He fell on His face and prayed.

Listen, I know leadership can feel overwhelming.

There are seasons where the weight feels too heavy, where you’re stretched too thin, where you don’t see a way forward.

But Jesus showed us what to do in those moments—take it to the Father.

When you’re exhausted, you have two choices:

1️. Push through in your own strength and burn out.
2️. Press into God’s presence and be renewed.

📖 Isaiah 40:31 – “Those who wait upon the Lord will renew their strength.”

🔹 Are you taking time to wait on the Lord?
🔹 Are you praying before making major decisions?
🔹 Are you worshiping, listening, and letting God refill you?

If Jesus—the Son of God—needed to seek the Father’s strength, then so do we.

Final Challenge: Take Action This Week

Alright, let’s bring this all home.

🔥 Servant leadership is costly, but burnout is avoidable.

And the way to avoid burnout is to lead like Jesus—by withdrawing, resting, and pressing into the Father’s presence.

So here’s my challenge for you this week:

✔ Pick one of these three areas and take action.
1. Set aside a dedicated withdrawal time for prayer.

Activity: Sacred Pause Prayer Retreat

• Find a quiet place (a room, park, or church) where you can be alone with God.
• Set a timer for at least 15-30 minutes to spend in uninterrupted prayer.
• Use a prayer structure:
   
  • Praise: Start by worshiping and acknowledging God’s greatness.
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  • Repent: Confess and release any burdens weighing on your heart.
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  • Ask: Present your requests, needs, and concerns.
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  • Yield: Listen in silence and reflect on any scriptures or insights that come to mind.
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• Keep a journal to write down any thoughts, impressions, or scriptures that come up during prayer.
• Repeat daily or weekly to create a habit of withdrawing into prayer.

2. Schedule rest and time with trusted friends.

Activity: Sabbath & Fellowship Evening

• Choose one day or evening per week where you unplug from work, social media, and responsibilities.
• Create a restful routine:
   
  • Engage in a peaceful activity (reading, walking, worship music).
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  • Cook or share a simple meal with trusted friends.
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  • Set aside intentional time to talk about faith, life, and encouragement.
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  • End the time with prayer and gratitude, lifting up one another’s needs.
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• Make it recurring—a weekly or bi-weekly practice to ensure spiritual refreshment and deepened relationships.

3. Take a situation you’re overwhelmed by and press into God’s presence.

Activity: Overwhelm Surrender Prayer Exercise

• Identify the overwhelming situation and write it down in a journal.
• Find a quiet space and pray through the following steps:
   
  • Acknowledge the burden: Tell God exactly how you feel.
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  • Surrender control: Say out loud, “Lord, I release this situation to You.”
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  • Meditate on a scripture: Choose a verse like Matthew 11:28-30 (“Come to me, all you who are weary…”).
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  • Take a deep breath and visualize handing the situation over to Jesus.
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  • Sit in silence for a few minutes, allowing God’s peace to fill you.
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• Optional: Share your burden with a trusted friend or mentor and ask them to pray with you.
• Repeat this exercise whenever anxiety resurfaces.

Don’t just listen to this episode—do something with it.

And if this message spoke to you today, I want to hear from you.

💬 Send me a direct message, leave a comment, or email me—what step are you going to take this week?

And if this episode encouraged you, share it with another leader who needs it. Because we’re building a movement of servant leaders who lead with strength, with wisdom, and without burnout.

Closing & Call to Action

That’s it for today’s episode of Servant Leaders Blueprint!

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Until next time, stay strong, stay faithful, and keep leading like Jesus.

🙏 God bless!